When Is It Time for Marriage Counseling?

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When Is It Time for Marriage Counseling?

30 September 2016
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Most couples probably don't like the idea of seeing a marriage counselor; they may assume this means telling all the private details of their life to a stranger, who is going to then give them lists of things to work on, tell them how they're failing the marriage, and so on. However, it's good for couples to realize that a trained counselor can help you to improve your marriage and even feel happier about your life and relationship with your spouse overall. Note when it might be time to visit a marriage counselor and how they can help you.

The silent treatment

If you or your spouse tend to give each other the silent treatment, this can be a very difficult habit to break. It might also mean that you simply don't know how to communicate hurt feelings or talk to each other about your needs. You may also feel that your spouse simply isn't respecting what you need in the relationship, when he or she doesn't understand your needs or your feelings; in turn, you two just stop talking to each other.

Unfortunately this pattern of giving each other the silent treatment can become so ingrained that you may eventually go weeks if not even months without speaking! Before that happens, it's good to see a marriage counselor; he or she can give you better way of listening and speaking so that neither one of you is so hurt that you simply shut down.

Major changes

When one spouse goes through a major change, it can be difficult to keep the marriage intact, as this may upset a couple's ways of communicating and disrupt the things they may have once had in common. These changes may mean one spouse changing their religion, going through a health crisis, or coming into money. Changes that both spouses experience together may include the birth of a child, moving across the country, or a spouse who loses their job so the family suddenly has a reduction in income. One spouse may suddenly feel lonely or dissatisfied with the marriage overall when they see how the other spouse handles these changes.

A marriage counselor can help both spouses understand how to see past these changes and find things that they still have in common, and ensure they still respect each other as individuals while supporting each other. This can ensure that any major life change won't cause you to become a virtual stranger to your spouse or cause undue tension in your marriage.